Friday 26 December 2014

Rebuttal to Aamir Khan's show Satyamev Jayate episode "When Masculinity Harms Men"


Recently Satyamev Jayate had telecast it's last episode of season 3 where Aamir Khan said that this episode is specially done to bring out the issues faced by men. But, shockingly it again turned out to be a complete male bashing in disguise.  The basic attribute of being a man i.e. manliness was ridiculed on a national Television. 


I will list a few objectionable things in that show:

1. Aamir listed out a few attributes a man can have as per the male audience. Then very easily ridiculed each of them just going by the female audience. How can this be justified? He struck off many of the attributes a man does have just on the words of a few girls. Like:

a.    नेक – A man does his job, earns money and runs the family in most household. After that feminists have suggested him to do household chores as well. He cleans the toilet, helps his wife in her work and does all the odd jobs in the home. In many homes, the guy is cooking also after coming from office and feeding the wife. After that, he has to listen to abuses and constant nagging by wife and bears the harassment from her and her family sometimes. Still he keeps doing his duty without any complaint. Isn’t he a good person? What more does one expect out of him?

b.    समझदार – Most of the modern day inventions we are using are discovered by men. Most well known international and national companies have been founded by men. Most critical and crucial work is being done by men. After that he manages his own home and also helps in household chores. Still can we say that a man is not wise?

c.    संवेदनशील – I will go ahead and say men are more emotional than women. Men are emotionally weaker than women. Women take heavy advantage of this and keep abusing men emotionally and finally a break down occurs in the men’s psyche and he either retaliates by doing what he is better at i.e. harm the woman physically or harm himself physically, get addicted or might even commit suicide. And this is the basic reason why married men commit double the number of suicides then women.

d.    रक्षक – A man is supposed to take action if an unknown person enters the house, a small child of 10 is asked to escort a 30 year old aunty to her home and a man is expected to protect the family from snakes, lizards, etc by default. The army comprising of men is protecting all of us day and night. I think I do not need to say anything more.

e.    इज़्ज़त देने वाला –In general a guy has lot of respect for ladies, elderly, other guys, colleagues, etc unlike most ladies today. A guy is ready to protest against atrocities on ladies by doing candle march, sitting on roads in hot/cold weather, etc. But a lady does not think twice before abusing old parents of husband, putting false cases against innocent guys. In fact girls tend to spread misandry in the society.

f.    मेहनती – Men are working very hard day and night to make this world and the family a better place. But does not expect anything in return except some peace of mind and gratitude. Women are just bragging on rights of equal pay without wanting trying to work equally as men.  Men are working in the most dangerous of places like mines, borders (army), etc, etc. But still women show jealousy instead of appreciating.

g.    मदद करने वाला – A well known fact is that a woman always gets help from other men at every walk of life more than a man gets from any woman. So, at least a woman denying this thing is an irony.

h.    मन मे प्यार – To get love, give love. After all this what men do for the women, the society, the world, they do not ever get the appreciation they deserve. Instead they are portrayed as villains everywhere. Is that justified?

i. Rest of the attributes – When we say women are beautiful. Are all women beautiful? When we say women are graceful, do we mean all women are graceful? No!! Similarly attributes like पहलवान and बहादुर . Anyways if the expectation is to show बहादुरी every time at the cost of one’s life, it is a wrong expectation.

2.    The episode of ragging was extremely unfortunate and ragging is a criminal offence now a days. Anyone involved in ragging can be taken to task. BUT do you know that even girls do ragging? Yes! Seems impossible, but yes girls are also equally involved in ragging. Suicides happen amongst girls as well due to ragging by other girls. So, why only target boys? Did the girl’s family also told them to be “Mard”? Obviously not! These are crimes irrespective of gender. Then how come “Mardangi” or manliness is being connected to crimes?

http://www.ndtv.com/article/cities/allegedly-ragged-by-four-girls-faculty-member-bhopal-student-commits-suicide-403249

3.    A point was raised where Manliness was blamed again for Acid attacks on Anjali. Again this is an attack on men. Acid attacks are not only carried out by men on women but vice versa as well. This clearly proves that manliness had nothing to do with crime.

http://indiatoday.intoday.in/story/woman-throws-acid-on-husband-in-delhi/1/299385.html




4.    It has been continuously said in the program that some husbands physically abuse wives. I agree there are some men who do that w/o any reason. But, please let us also try to see the other side of this. There are innumerable men facing domestic violence at home from their wives. Wives are very strong emotionally and very easily abuse their husbands with guilt feelings, insults, etc. In many cases, wives abuses men physically and sexually as well. Constantly questions husband’s fertility. This kind of harassment finally leads a man to either commit suicide or retaliate by using physical force which is their strong point. Men cannot tell their problems outside as they are made laughing stock. Also, wives can be equally or more cruel.




5.    Aamir says that Rapists, dowry death accused people get married. How society is able to accept such people? If I say it the other way round, why do people accept girls who file false rape and dowry cases? In a recent movie, “Daawat-a-ishq”, the lead actress was lauded and supported even after she filed a fake dowry case. Is that justified? If dowry is social evil, fake dowry case is even bigger social evil.

6.    Kamla Bhaseen ji was quick to pounce on manliness for all violence. As I have shown above, manliness has nothing to do with violence; a woman can be equally capable of violence. It is a person’s attribute to be violent or not and nothing to do with gender. This statement is a prime example of spreading misandry in the society.

7.    Kamla Bhaseen ji also advocates that “Taakat se mohabbat mat karo. Mohabbat ke takat ko samjho”. But, please ask so many husbands who have been harassed and have got fake cases on them, didn’t they love their wives? They did! They did everything possible for them. But wives’ demands were astronomically high which could not be fulfilled and in spite of pleading with her, husbands are slapped with fake DV/Dowry cases. Who is misusing power here?

8.    She again advocates that there is no difference between men and women other than the physical features. We all know biologically, how many differences are there between a male and a female. They were never same. Both are unique in their own way. Women are said to be emotionally stronger and men physically stronger is one example.

9.    She says that a woman can harass only when she becomes a mother in law. But, this is farther from the truth. Now days I have encountered innumerable cases where wives are harassing husbands and in laws a lot, both emotionally and physically. But husband’s family has no option as there are no laws to protect them. On the contrary, a woman has ‘n’ no of laws which she can use to blackmail them into surrendering to their demands. Ex of cruelty by women:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2119345/Tania-Coleman-starved-baby-death-dumped-body-road.html

10.    She said a lot about rapists, but conveniently forgot to mention fake rape cases which actually destroy lives much more than a rape victim’s. He loses respect, job, sometimes family members, etc. Also, male rape/sexual exploitation which is an untouched issue is always ignored.

http://www.delhincr.amarujala.com/feature/delhi-news-ncr/model-will-run-on-false-accusations-of-rape-case-hindi-news-jn/

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/chennai/Man-kills-self-blames-woman-doctor-in-note/articleshow/16361057.cms?referral=PM

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/Wake-up-to-the-woes-of-sexually-harassed-men/articleshow/20716412.cms


11.    She very conveniently made fun of men by shaming them for using sexual performance enhancing drugs. But, she might not be aware or she intentionally ignored the fact how men are insulted by wives, girlfriends with accusation of impotency or not being able to satisfy them. Impotency is a ground for divorce which many women misuse. Also, many women ditch their husbands or boyfriends for this very reason!!


Finally, I want to just say one thing that blaming manliness for all crimes is absolutely sexist and is equal to saying that men are responsible for all crimes, so change them to females. Crime does not have any gender. A woman also commits crime as much or may be more than men do.


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